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Quit being a people pleaser

Living to please others is something we should let go of. I hated it when people disliked something about me. I would change my likes and dislikes to their likes and dislikes but it has never helped me.

Being a people pleaser kinda eats you from the inside. It makes you feel like you’re not enough and you know what? You’ll never be enough for people who require pleasing. Get that through your mind.

Don’t change yourself for people.

I was a person who didn’t have a personality of her own. I would be different with different people. I would study the people the first week after our introduction and everything and become the kind of person they liked.

But there came a time when I had a lot of questions in my mind like:

1. Can I not be myself with people?

2. Should I care if they don’t like the way I am?

That’s when I became myself. That doesn’t mean that I became a rude person or anything but what it means is that I stopped pleasing people.

Because it was affecting my health in a bad way. It is overwhelming when you have to act the whole day. Act a person who’s not you. You cry yourself to sleep sometimes. Look into your reflection and ignore your beauty and cuss at your flaws instead.

Keep one thing in your mind, everyone. You are amazing. What people think and say is their problem, not yours. Don’t mistreat people. Stay humble.

Be true to yourself. Be you.

What time does to you…

I met a woman today who used to be our neighbor when I was 8 years old. She had an amazing soul. Her husband died of an electric shock back then so she lived alone.

And now after almost 10 years I met her again. I went back to see how she was because I was in the city and I needed to meet her.

And oh god what time does to you. There I saw an old woman who had problem walking, her house which used to literally shine was now filled with dust and dirt.

I couldn’t help but cry. She had turned old. What time does to you is out of your hands people.

Take care of the old people around you no matter who they are. It doesn’t matter if they’re nice to you or not. It doesn’t matter if you’re related or not. Take care of them.

Give them unconditional love and they’ll smile at you, they’ll pray for you and I think that’s the best reward you can get back for the love you give.

Is covid-19 leading to stress ?

The answer to the title’s question is YES. It is a problem which the whole Earth is facing. Covid-19 has imprisoned people and forced them to stay in their homes and if which is a big if they have to get out of their houses they’ll have to follow the standard operating procedures which to us, I’m beyond sure are on our fingertips, but for those who don’t know what they are:

When you switch to the news channel and see the number of daily cases and deaths you get a sad feeling inside you even if you’re one of the strongest persons in your family but if you’re a sensitive person there’s a chance that you might get stressed out by all the tragic deaths worldwide.

I myself am a person who acts to be strong but is not in reality. I get emotional when I look at the deaths and the interviews of families who lost their loved ones to this deadly virus.

We must help each other in not losing hope and in having a positive outlook during these cold times.

If you are asking the question for what stress has got to do with this pandemic then read on.

1. Family:

YES family . We in our normal days are not used to spending time with our families. We isolate ourselves in our rooms when we get back from work, school, college etc and don’t usually see each other but covid has brought us together and has made us bear each other.

For me it was hard in the beginning but now it’s not because I’ve learnt patience .

Patience is a very important virtue. I was used to talking back at people because nowadays if you’re not used to it people bully you so you have to do it. But family is a big exception.

So learn patience.

2. Online classes:

Oh my god. This is the worst of all. I still hate online classes but have gotten used to them. How? I think because the motivation to learn kept me going. And responsibility ofcourse. When we had physical classes teachers would force us to learn. We would have tests and quizzes. To get good grades in them mattered. But for online classes that’s not very important. Our honesty is being tested. It’s upto us whether we decide to cheat or not.

So where’s the stress in this whole paragraph? Yeah I’m getting to that. I started getting stressed out because for me online classes are not suitable for understanding a topic. I don’t quite understand for what the teacher is saying or well zone out A LOT and I was getting behind the syllabus by a lot. That was stressing me out. I was getting irritated because I would have a test coming up and I wouldn’t even know the ABC of that particular topic. For that I took a self analysis of myself that what am I doing wrong, why am I not being able to understand anything.

I found out the reason which was the blame game. I would blame the online classes and the system itself but not myself not even once and when I did start to blame myself that’s when I started to see improvement in my outlook and my studies overall.

3. Weight:

This has bothered me a lot. I was following no particular routine be it my diet or my whole day routine. This lead to weight gain. I don’t gain a lot of weight, it’s genetic, but I do gain 2 kgs if I eat a lot. But a lot of people have been suffering from weight gain and that is because of being stuck indoors with no physical activity at all.

For this you’ll have to be active. You’ll have to make a routine. Try checking out some websites regarding indoor exercises. They help a lot. And control your diet. Pamper yourself. Not in the pizza or burger sense but in the smoothie or salad sense.

By that you’ll feel fresh and won’t feel stressed out at all

Closing note:

The main thing of coping with stress is spending time with your family, calling your friends, staying away from negativity, motivating yourself and finding yourself a hobby ( mine’s drawing ). These things have helped me I hope they’ll be of some help for you.

This is no professional advice.

If you have severe symptoms of stress then kindly consult a doctor.